The Art of Intimacy
6-month in-person & online intensive
NEW YORK CITY
October 2018 - March 2019
Deep relationship. Delicious Connection.
Intimacy is misunderstood. We think it’s sex or dating, or maybe revealing things about ourselves that make us feel vulnerable.
In fact, intimacy is a complex, subtle energetic exchange that affects every social interaction and relationship we have — from how we interact with attractive strangers walking down the street, to how we respond to family (triggers and all), to how we have sex with those we love and desire.
Ultimately, intimacy is first about our relationship with ourselves — especially the parts that were hurt or whose needs weren’t met when we were growing up. This inner child continues to influence our relationship patterns and our identity far more powerfully than we realize.
Do you keep repeating unfulfilling relationship patterns? Do you find yourself having the same family disagreements over and over? Is your sexuality free and pleasurable, or are you secretly ashamed about parts of your body, your need for love and contact, or your sexual desires?
The Art of Intimacy is a 6-month intensive exploration into how we unknowingly block our desires — and those parts of us that yearn for freedom and release. The experiences will be deep, challenging, enriching, and heart-opening. You will leave this program knowing yourself and feeling more empowered in your self-expression in all aspects of intimacy and relating.
I want you to really get how absolutely amazing you are, and how precious and wanted your being is.
What You'll Learn in "The Art of Intimacy"
I describe Art of Intimacy as "an online and in-person 6-month intensive" but it's hard to capture the experience fully in words. Those of you who've done deep self-development work and/or body-centered practices know the intensity, transformation, and rich connections that happen in the context of a group of individuals committed to going deep.
The major topics we'll explore together are listed below. These are the things I've seen people most commonly struggle with, over my 30-plus years of experience in body work, counseling, energy healing, and sexuality and sensuality. BUT LET ME BE CLEAR:
This program will be curated specifically for you.
You bring whatever you struggle with, whether about relating to yourself or others. I'll create and guide tailored experiences to help you, specifically, know what intimacy means for you and how to bring more freedom and choice in how you experience it.
WHAT WE'LL EXPLORE IN
"THE ART OF INTIMACY"
Understand Your Seduction Style: how you give yourself away or manipulate the "other" — subtly or obviously — to get what you want (or think you do)
Uncover Your Attraction Patterns: what pulls you toward someone and turns you off about others
Find Your True Invitation (women & women-identified): how to stay fully open as you give deeply; understand that it's you — not "the other" — who is fulfilling your need for connection
Ground Fully from Your Cock & Balls (men & men-identified): being able to fully inhabit your sexuality — without holding back your power or your vulnerability
Uncover How Your Heart and Sex Are Split: understand physically how your heart and sexuality are connected (or not, as the case may be) and learn how to bring them into communication to create deep connection within yourself as well as intimate relationships
Differentiate Your True Needs and Desires: how much the unmet needs of your inner child control your adult interactions; how to make new choices to create the relationship(s) you really want
Understand the True Meaning of Consent: how to determine where you are a clear yes and no and where your boundaries are permeable. Learn how to clearly feel your own boundaries (emotional and sexual) and how to attune to the boundaries of others
Unravel Shame: the powerful experience of a "sexuality body reading;" releasing shame about your body and your emotional and sexual desires
Distinguish between Boundaries and Defenses/Resistance: the difference between a boundary (an actual energy transmission) and a defense (a response to fear)
Discovery through Sexual Fantasy Constellations: Unwind the unmet need that’s hidden in your erotic fantasies
Working with Trauma: Finding and releasing the imprints from trauma that impedes your ability to fully engage in all aspects of life
Why The Art of Intimacy?
FIRST, as I said above, this work combines my passion for guiding others to aliveness and freedom of heart and sensuality, with my decades of experience in energy healing, counseling, sexuality and sexuality healing, and intimacy.
I want you to really get how fucking amazing you are and how precious and wanted your being is. I want you to understand that true intimacy is not only about sex — but about deep connection to yourself first, and only then, with another.
SECOND, what I've come to learn is just how much the unmet needs of our childhood dictate who we are as adults. Even those of us who've done deep self-development work over many years may be less conscious of how much that inner child rules our relationships. It's one thing to know this theoretically; another thing altogether to understand it at the level of the body. This work is to support you in feeling completely free to make new choices that satisfy our needs as adults.
THIRD, I've discovered subtle aspects of how we constantly negotiate our relationships out of fear — of abandonment, rejection, being hurt, being shamed. I designed this program so that you can discover the internal strength that lets you be completely open and vulnerable when you choose to be.
FOURTH, the self-awareness and self-empowerment that create real intimacy bring incredible peace and a deep self-confidence. When we meet our deepest heart fears, we become free. From there, we can authentically connect with others, because we'll no longer be secretly angling for something we need. Instead of "re-acting" in fear, you will interact from the pleasure of self-knowledge, to create a "We space" where you are seen and you can see the other.
I want you to enjoy the delicious freedom of full sensual pleasure, healthy boundaries & an open heart.
What past participants say
During AOI, I got clear, comprehensive—and often startling—insights into who has actually been steering my "relational ship" all these years. All of a sudden, the root causes of my life-long tumultuousness in love affairs with women have been explained...and I've recaptured a sense of adventure in my dating life.
Lynn is a magician. My partner and I got HUGELY important tools and insights to navigate the ways we block love with one another, get triggered, and think it's about us—when, of course, it's all about love.
This course has benefited me tremendously, giving me invaluable insights into my romantic attachment style and grounding me way more into my body. Lynn couples great depth of theoretical knowledge with superb hands-on wisdom about the body. She brings an enormous heart and love into her work.
How the Program Works
- Four 3-day in-person group workshops
- Weekly video community gatherings with your cohorts
- One-on-one coaching with me (Lynn Kreaden)
- One-on-one coaching with a team mentor
- "Homework" practices to deepen and integrate your learning into "everyday life
- Details and dates for New York City are here.
The heart of this program is four separate three-day intensive workshops. Something transformative happens when individuals committed to self-honesty and growth gather as a group. I've run sensuality workshops, bodywork (somatic psychology) weekends, and weekly process groups for decades; over this time, I've developed practices (movement, vocalization, interaction/connection, cognitive) that my clients say give them life-altering insights. These workshops go deep and can be intensive and challenging — but they are rewarding in the way that only these kinds of group intensives can be.
WEEKLY VIDEO GATHERING
For the entire program of The Art of Intimacy, we'll meet weekly in a private group video conference. I've designed dialogue and body practices that can be done online and have the same or similar impacts as in-person work. And learning goes deeper when the same group meets with regularity. These will be "curated" sessions, in which I'll continue to guide the group and provide personalized attention to build on the insights from the in-person workshops.
ONE-ON-ONE COACHING WITH LYNN
Private sessions with an intimacy/sexuality coach can be invaluable. To build on the self-development you'll experience through the weekend workshops and weekly video gatherings, I'll hold private (remote) sessions with each participant. We'll connect in a healing space where you can bring all of you, without shame or judgment, and reclaim your power to experience intimacy in your life the way you'd want it.
Over decades, I've created a range of subtle-energy practices to heal and empower my clients' sense of love, sensuality, pleasure, and power. I'll share these, along with personalized variations tailored to you, specifically, that you can use to create real changes in your life and relationships. These "at-home" practices are an important part of your journey; they're a chance for you to take responsibility to integrate your experiences and make the knowledge "your own".
ONE-ON-ONE COACHING WITH GROUP MENTOR
In addition to coaching with me (Lynn), you'll have one-on-one sessions with a mentor who has demonstrated a matured and embodied understanding of the concepts.
The Art of Intimacy Program Assistants
To be announced soon
Meet our Guest Teacher
Eivind Figenschau Skjellum created RYIT while in the midst of a profound initiation due to chronic health issues, death of family members and the loss of everything that had given his identity form. He then discovered how to take men on a similar journey in just three months, and with way more support than he himself had. Eivind is an internationally recognized expert in the field of archetypes and masculine psychology, a true visionary and trailblazer, and a leading figure in the Circling scene.
I’d love you to join me in this 6-month adventure
If you're still reading, it's because you want more out of love, relating, and sex.
What I know from running this program is that, if you engage with this course, you and your life will change. This course will be an "awakening" where you find out your own authentic way of relating with others and discover the freedom and strength to create what you want. You'll do so while rediscovering a sensual aliveness and freedom that, as adults, we often feel we've lost.
To join The Art of Intimacy 6-month program, fill out the online application and confirm your registration with payment, and I'll get back to you with next steps.
I'm beyond excited to have you join me.
I wish I had words to fully convey the sensual deliciousness of what this journey offers. You can get a glimpse through The Art of Intimacy videos and pictures.
But please reach out to me anytime if you have questions.
I'd love to chat with you to see if this program is right for you.
Participation in the program is confirmed with either payment in full or partial deposits as listed. If you need to cancel your participation in the program after you’ve confirmed:
- Before July 15, 2018: Payment will be refunded except for the non-refundable deposit ($560 Early Bird, $630 Standard).
- July 16 - September 6, 2018: Payment will be refunded except for the non-refundable deposit ($560 Early Bird, $630 Standard) + 25% of course tuition.
- September 7 -October 4, 2018: Payment will be refunded except for the non-refundable deposit ($560 Early Bird, $630 Standard) + 50% of course tuition.
- October 5, 2018 and later: Once course has started, no refunds will be issued. Participants are obligated to complete payment in full for the whole course.
Please contact Lynn with any questions at: firstname.lastname@example.org